written by Archie
It has been almost 4 years since we first started doing IVF. It has been an emotional roller coaster for us. We experienced being sad, happy and devastated. We were happy one day but then sad news will follow. It was an experience where you don’t know for sure it’s really a success until you see your child crying in the delivery room.
I can still remember the days of endless conversations and debates regarding IVF. Initially, I hesitated doing IVF because of its prohibitive costs. I was convinced that we could still do the cheaper alternative. I persuaded (or emotionally blackmailed) my wife to eat less and exercise more in order for her to get healthier because I naively thought that it was the sole reason why she was having a hard time conceiving. Looking back, it might not have been the best method. While it’s true that getting healthier helps people conceive, there are other factors that should also be considered. During that time, I was just a clueless husband not knowing what was going on inside my wife’s body. I was too naive to think that every problem had a simple solution.
5 years and countless visits to the doctor, we had no choice but to consider doing IVF. I was hesitant at first. My mom called some of her friends to tell us the benefit of IVF and which hospital is the best with this procedure. I eventually relented knowing that we had virtually no choice if we really wanted to have a child. It was during these times that I tried to research more about it. My wife scoured the internet to find more information. We were bombarded mostly by studies, scientific jargons and numbers. While we learned a lot from it, I believe that what really helped us are the blogs from women who experienced it or are still undergoing IVF.
We can’t help but be grateful for these women who shared their experiences. It’s not always pleasant considering that 2 of the blogs that we’ve read didn’t produce the outcome they prayed for. We were with them through their journey and suffered the same joys and heartbreak. It helped us temper our expectations and learned a thing or two from them. We were thankful that they shared the answers to the questions more prominent websites do not share like the cost of doing an IVF, their experience of having the procedure, tips on surviving in a foreign country and others.
We definitely had an exhausting IVF journey. We underwent 4 cycles and 2 embryo transfers. We conceived once through IVF and once naturally but lost both times. It was full of heartbreak but we kept on going after reading the inspirational stories of other people. We already discussed other options like finding an egg donor or adoption but decided to do IVF while we still can and we’re grateful that we are finally blessed.
We believe in the power of sharing and the power of the internet. I started a random blog 2 years ago regarding our experience regarding IVF. I didn’t expect much from it but after a few days, there were people reaching out and sending me messages. Some people thanked me for the blog and there were some who wanted to know more about IVF. An old friend sent me an SMS just a few days ago and asked if we could meet because his wife wanted to know more about the hospital that we went to in Taiwan.
It was then that we realized that there are still a lot of people who want to learn more about IVF. Most of them already know what IVF is and the different procedures but there are some things that scientific journals and news articles can’t answer. Like the blogs that we’ve read, we felt that we can help other people by sharing our experience as well as asking other people about their experiences with IVF. We hope that by collating news and experiences in this site, people can find the answers that they are looking for.
We only have a limited knowledge regarding this procedure and we are by no means experts. We can’t answer everything but we know that while it may not be much, we can still help in our own little way through sharing.
Thank you for visiting our site and please don’t hesitate to send us a message. We will be more than happy to share.